"Let us start cleaning out those things in our emotional life that we know make for more problems, such as resentment, self-pity, blaming others, anger."
Sir John Templeton "Golden Nuggets"
According to Nick Hall ( in his mp3 seminar "Change your beliefs change your life"
see http://www.nightingale.com/prod_detail~product~Change_Your_Beliefs_Life.aspx )
the self-examination of the hidden system of our beliefs starts with 7 questions:
1)Are these your beliefs or those of someone else?
2) Are your beliefs based on experience?
3)Can you think of times in your life when your belief system was challenged by reality?
4) Have your beliefs ever kept you from achieving a goal?
5) Are certain themes reflected in your beliefs?
6) Are you willing to change one or more of your beliefs if they are obstacles to your goals?
7) Are your beliefs serving a useful purpose?
There are 5 types of beliefs:
Here is the list of 10 Common mistaken beliefs that affect our emotional life.
1) I must be loved, validated, and approved of by all people.
2) I am responsible for other people
3) My hapiness depends on people and things outside myself
4) I must be the best at everything I do--I cannot make mistakes.
5) I can avoid dealing with problems or pain in life
6) Inconveniences in life are catastrophes.
7) I must be in control at all times
8) If people knew the real me, they would not like me.
9) It is wrong to enjoy myself very much
10) I cannot change because I have always been the way I am.
Rajneesh (Osho) about
About love as road to freedom
About jealousy societies way to divide and rule.
EMOTIONS THAT ARE IMPOSED TO OUR ACTIONS NOT BY US BUT BY WHAT OTHER PEOPLE FROM OUR SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT BELIEVE .
Unfortunately our emotions are not determined only by us, even if they are emotions about our own actions! Normally our actions would create emotions to us according to what we believe. But there are cases that emotions about our actions are tried to be imposed by other people according to what they believe and not what we believe. And there are cases that these emotions are stronger than our emotions because, either because such persons have acquired power over our consciousness or because such persons are more in number. This is one form of dangerous alienation. What other persons believe about us or our actions, when such persons acquire intimate relation with us, will become prophecies that we are inclined to fulfill. We must keep a distance from such emotions and perceive them only as messengers and replace them by asserting our own emotions. The usual key is to perceive them as non-personal but impersonal emotions, and not recognize them as our own. But this requires an ability to raise ourselves to impersonal levels too, and an ability to get free from the possessiveness of other people that believe wrong things according to us, about actions and attitudes as our own. Sometimes this leads to inner or outer loud monologues , but even so it is an art of self-talking within self-assertiveness.