Sunday, May 1, 2011

11. Choosing your emotions, dreams , fantasy and beliefs.



We will enlarge more on the emotions than the other dimensions as most people have their centre of gravity in their emotions, and therefore new habits and activity patterns are easier programmed in the subconscious, though the emotions


"Self-disciple begins with the mastery of one's thoughts. Without controls over thoughts there is no control over deeds!

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The desire for the major definite purpose helps to initiate the self-discipline.
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There are 7  negative emotions and  and 7 positive emotions.

A. 1. Fear 
2. Jealousy 
3. Hatred (prolonged) 
4. Revenge 
5. Greed 
6. Anger ( prolonged 

7. Superstition


B. 1. Love, 
2 Sex (the libido of the orgasm), 
3.Hope,
4. Faith 
5. Enthusiasm  
6. Loyalty ,
7 Desire


In these 14 emotions one may find the letters of the alphabet of a language that spells either success or failure.


These 14 emotions literally represent the keyboard of the musical scale of Life, on which an individual plays the chords of harmony that lead to happiness in its fullest meaning, or the discords of unhappiness that lead to misery and obscurity.

Each of these 14 emotions is related to "mental attitude" "


by Andrew Carnegie in the book "The wisdom of Andrew Carnegie as told to Napoleon Hill"


We must notice that this duality of positive and negative emotions, is based on them being appropriate or not, so as to achieve our personal goal, and mainly as statistical persisting emotions rather than as invividual occurence. The psychologist Nick Hall believes that the disctimination of emotions as negative or positive is contextual depending on the situation, rather than on the contect of the emotion itself. We may agree with that only at an individual exceptional occurence of an emotion. At a statitical repetitive pattern I agree with Andrew Carnegie.


"An attitude of gratitude creates blessings.


When we are grateful for the blessings we already have, our very gratitude attracts extra good to us. Gratitude nurtures within us a positive, joy-filled consciousness and unifies us with the life's flow, which gives birth to inner fulfilment.
..This law of life is about combining the expectations of the mind with the power of the heart"
Sir John Templeton (Golden Nuggets)

Gratitude is most probably the strongest feeling that can unite us positively with the world.

One may ask how we control our emotions. Andrew Carnegie already indicated a way: Through the desire for the goal. In other words though other emotions. But in order to do that we need leverage. In other words, we need  to use ground that is not the emotions. The closest dimensions of the consciousness to emotions are intellectual  thoughts and physical activities. 
That is why Anthony Robbins in his mp3 seminar titled 
talks about the emotional triad which consists from 
a) The patterns of your focus and beliefs
b) the pattern of  your  language
c) the pattern of your physiology and behaviour.
This also means that the emotions are created and produced by you, rather than they occur as states of an inner weather. We may enhance the triad to an emotional quartet if we add the spiritual dimension to the mental , emotional and physical.
Therefore the emotions are created by the acted pattern of 
a) Spiritual attention (Spiritual)
b) Thoughts and reasoning usually expressed in the language (Mind)
c) Previous emotions. (Emotional)
d) Physiology, behaviour and activity (Physical)

Even the emotions that are imported in the close contact from another person, they have to pass through these 4 gates, to become our emotions. In other words through common shared attention, through words that express a reasoning or memory of emotions, or through physiology, physical tough, or observation of the physiology of the other person, and mimicking or mirroring of it.


People usually underestimate the power of the attention in shaping emotions. E.g. If last night we where in the cinema watching a scary or very sad movie, the images of it will be as "seeds" in our subconscious that today have already grown small "plants" of sadness and luck of enthusiasm in our daily work. So beware of where you look, and what you attend (including TV news etc) as the negativity on our emotions though our attention is really a very insidious thing.

The emotional quartet means that we may very well change our emotions by changing one or more of the above patterns that we act. The relevant questions to do so are 

a) Where am I focusing so as to feel like this?
b) What am I  reasoning so as to feel like this?
c) What do I have to believe so as to feel like this?
d) What am I doing so as to feel like this?

We take emotions  as messengers of messages rather, than as self. In other words although we may very well identify with them, we may also keep a distance from them, using the ground of the other dimensions of our consciousness.

So after asking any one or more of the above questions (and of course the dominating is the c) )  we choose the new focusing, or reasoning, or believing, or behaving pattern that will produce the desired emotion , even if we cannot feel for the moment the desired emotion. For example if we are looking to substitute our present unpleasant emotion with  an emotion of pleasure, the above means that:
 We will focus on something else that we know it creates pleasure to us (e.g. a picture, or the imagination of our desired goal etc) 
or (/and) we will starting thinking a sequence of thoughts that we know that it creates pleasure to us, 
or (/and) we will starting shifting to another belief (that contains usually a feeling of certainty) that we know that it creates pleasant feelings to us, 
or/ (/and) we will start doing some physical action or behaviour (including face expressions, or hand and legs movements) that we know that it is associated with pleasant feelings even if we do not feel  these pleasant feelings yet.

The focus, reasoning, and belief triggers of new feelings may be called top-down (or in-in) , while the physiology-behaviour triggers bottom-up (or out-in).


As an example let us assume that you sit quite many hours in the computer working, and now you stop, and feel stressed (this might include hidden fear or anxiety about something) and you want to change your emotions. If you are a rather fat person, a standard complusive action may be to go out to eat something (although there is no real bodily objective significant hunger) so as to see also other people and change your emotions. By knowing the above, you may change your emotion of stress and acquire a new more relaxed and pleasent by doing a different physiology, e.g. taking the bicycle to go to a park where you can also see other people, relax, and act bicycle motions that produce calmness, pleasure and circulation of bodily energy. The latter has the advantage that after say 5 hours you will still feel normal, while by eating in a redundant way, after 3-5 hours you will feel rather bad.


"Let us start cleaning out those things in our emotional life that we know make for more problems, such as resentment, self-pity, blaming others, anger."
Sir John Templeton "Golden Nuggets"


According to Nick Hall ( in his mp3 seminar "Change your beliefs change your life"
see 
http://www.nightingale.com/prod_detail~product~Change_Your_Beliefs_Life.aspx )
the self-examination of the hidden system of our beliefs starts with 7 questions:



1)Are these your beliefs or those of someone else?
2) Are your beliefs based on experience?
3)Can you think of times in your life when your belief system was challenged by reality?
4) Have your beliefs ever kept you from achieving a goal?
5) Are certain themes reflected in your beliefs?
6) Are you willing to change one or more of your beliefs if they are obstacles to your goals?
7) Are your beliefs serving a useful purpose?


There are  5 types of beliefs:
Core beliefs
Cultural beliefs
Hand-Me-down Beliefs
Advertised Beliefs
Biological Beliefs




Here is the list of 10 Common mistaken beliefs that affect our emotional life.


1) I must be loved, validated, and approved of by all people.
2) I am responsible for other people
3) My hapiness depends on people and things outside myself
4) I must be the best at everything I do--I cannot make mistakes.
5) I can avoid dealing with problems or pain in life
6) Inconveniences in life are catastrophes.
7) I must be in control at all times
8) If people knew the real me, they would not like me.
9) It is wrong to enjoy myself very much
10) I cannot change because I have always been the way I am.


Finally let us relate the beliefs with our senses. Beliefs may be understood also as selective filters that guide us to see, hear, and feel thin slices only from all the possible observables in the reality of the world. Conversely thin slices only of observables feed and confirm beliefs. Beliefs can be understood also as selective filters and assumptions with which we silently communicate with ourselves during the inner activity of our thoughts, feelings and consciousness in a repetitive consistent manner.

Rajneesh (Osho) about 

Emotions

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsI1aioXNuA

About love as road to freedom 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OAXghwgkqFg

About jealousy societies way to divide and rule.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9we864sMns

EMOTIONS THAT ARE IMPOSED TO OUR ACTIONS NOT BY US BUT BY WHAT OTHER PEOPLE FROM OUR SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT  BELIEVE .

Unfortunately our emotions are not determined only by us, even if they are emotions about our own actions! Normally our actions would create emotions to us according to what we believe. But there are cases that emotions about our actions are tried to be imposed by other people according to what they believe and not what we believe. And there are cases that these emotions are stronger than our emotions because, either because such persons have acquired power over our consciousness or because such persons are more in number. This is one form of dangerous alienation. What other persons believe about us or our actions, when such persons acquire intimate relation with us, will become prophecies that we are inclined to fulfill.  We must keep a distance from such emotions and perceive them only as messengers and replace them by asserting our own emotions. The usual key is to perceive them as non-personal but impersonal emotions, and not recognize them as our own. But this requires an ability to raise ourselves to impersonal levels too, and an ability to get free from the possessiveness of other people that believe wrong things according to us, about actions and attitudes as our own. Sometimes this leads to inner or outer  loud monologues , but even so it is an art of self-talking within self-assertiveness. 


CONSCIOUSNESS, BODY AND THE WORLD 
IMPERSONAL THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS AND OUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS.


You are consciousness. Your body is in your consciousness, not the other way around--you are not consciousness inside of a body. consciousness has formed the body necessary for your needs and lessons while on earth. When you realize this you will find that you are no longer quite so subject to world beliefs that say you are at the mercy of your body.




Your whole world is also within your consciousness--the weather, friends near or far, family, beliefs. Everything exists in consciousness and nothing exists outside of consciousness. Each must ask; "What do I entertain in my consciousness? What beliefs, what concepts, what ideas, etc do I hold?"

Thoughts that pop into your head are impersonal until you claim them as yours. This is why there is no reason to believe you are a spiritual failure if some negative or even violent thought comes floating into your mind when you least expect it. The clearing process of the bodies within the consciousness often brings outgrown beliefs and thoughts to the surface. No need to react with shock or resistance, simply acknowledge them for what they are, giving them no power, and moving on.
Thoughts have only the reality and power they are given. The human mind can only draw on what is already a part of consensus consciousness--that which is already known. New ideas-- inventions, art, science, technology, and deep spiritual insights etc, must bubble up from deeper levels of creativity within where they are then brought into manifestation by the receiver and become part of consensus consciousness and available to all. This is how evolution takes place and how your every insight is adding to the resonance of an ascending world consciousness.
Many yet remain unaware of who and what they really are or that the energy they radiate effects those around them as well as adding to the universal energy of the planet as a whole. This is why it is important to be aware of your thoughts and beliefs or of thinking that your thoughts are hurting no one if you don't say them out loud.
You carry your state of consciousness wherever you go because consciousness is what you are. Your resonance can lift and open another who is receptive to it without your awareness or can cause someone to dislike you. Because energy seeks to align with like energy (oneness) it is important to keep yourself in compassion and not sympathy when helping those who may be drawn to your energy seeking help.
You are creators but have not known this. The consciousness of a sleeping mankind has for eons been forming the world in which you now find yourselves--consciousness manifesting as form and building upon itself to where the world is now. Through centuries of struggle and evolving awareness, mankind is now ready to move beyond the illusion.

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