According to Nick Hall ( in his mp3 seminar "Change your beliefs change your life"
see http://www.nightingale.com/prod_detail~product~Change_Your_Beliefs_Life.aspx )
the self-examination of the hidden system of our beliefs starts with 7 questions:
1)Are these your beliefs or those of someone else?
2) Are your beliefs based on experience?
3)Can you think of times in your life when your belief system was challenged by reality?
4) Have your beliefs ever kept you from achieving a goal?
5) Are certain themes reflected in your beliefs?
6) Are you willing to change one or more of your beliefs if they are obstacles to your goals?
7) Are your beliefs serving a useful purpose?
There are 5 types of beliefs:
Here is the list of 10 Common mistaken beliefs that affect our emotional life.
1) I must be loved, validated, and approved of by all people.
2) I am responsible for other people
3) My hapiness depends on people and things outside myself
4) I must be the best at everything I do--I cannot make mistakes.
5) I can avoid dealing with problems or pain in life
6) Inconveniences in life are catastrophes.
7) I must be in control at all times
8) If people knew the real me, they would not like me.
9) It is wrong to enjoy myself very much
10) I cannot change because I have always been the way I am.
Let us now discuss the persuation techniques.
An essentially persuasive and efficient communication is based on
1) Honouring the other person and respecting his frame of reference and privacy.
2) It utilises the mirror of the words to give sound reasoning to logic
3) create feelings
4) and help surpass all obstacles.
5) to motivate for proactive options in actions,
6) the communication should call for the undivided attention
7) keep it alive by "salting" and "unpacking the present" (creating suspense)
8) while end with the gratifying resolution of the gift of the emotional word-picture.
To be sure that you do not manipulate but rather inspire, you must believe sincerely that it is good for the other person what you suggest, and that if you were in his positions you would want to do it.
And of course do not forget the diamond rule (as in the post 37).
In personal intimate relations the same rule holds: If you believe that the other person is most likely to accept your proposition, then you do persuade him (her).
1) Steven Scott Lessons from the Richest Man Who Ever Lived
Steven Scott had during the 20th century probably the most productive and succesfull advertising company in USA.
2) Napoleon Hill "Succeed and grow rich through persuation" A classical author of high moral values.